The Lack of Updates

While I've had plenty of things on my mind to blog about, I often find it overwhelming to try and come up with anything articulate enough to be worth reading.

But while we are here. I have in the last month been in a relationship that looks promising as far as being able to explore our sexuality. I think we both would be considered switches, as neither of us are on any kind of powertrip.

I don't like pain, yet I'm open for some bondage and service play. The bondage is something she's wanted to try in the past, except her BF's have been afraid of it. We are also discovering she responds to pain when its kept in the realm of erotic play.

Maybe I'll learn to be a Sadistic bottom to my Masochistic top ?

Clarification

I feel there is a need to make something clear to those of you who may stumble across this blog.

I am not currently in and have never been in any type of power exchange relationship, and may not ever be. The blog is a place to discuss my observations of relationships I've known, of the blogs of those involved in some type of power exchange relationships and of how they compare.

My relationships and most of those around me would fall into the Vanilla category.
Though in the past, I've performed acts that I feel would have put me in the realm of being a Top, but not a Dominant.

My last relationship triggered something in me and I'm becoming accustomed to the idea that there is at least a glimmer (maybe more) of a submissive streak in me.

Dress For Sucess

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The Dom Switch Sub Test

Your significant other mentions how dirty the windows are.

Your reply or action is:

"Well Cunt/Worm then you better clean them" You are a Dominant.
You hold the bucket while she cleans them or Vice Versa. You are a Switch.
"I'll get right to it" or You don't let them get dirty. You are a sub.

: )

How Do You Know

If your Dominant, Submissive a Switch or just a Fetishist ?

I think at the moment I just have an interest or kink for certain imagry involving women. Women that appear strong and confident. Combined with the desire to treat them a certain way which often tends to be labeled as submissive behavior.

But really it's not fair for me to fall into the trap of feeling that only women with a certain appearance are Dominant or deserving of my respect.

Still, it is hard to not look into the gaze of some and feel she is one that isn't inclined to take any shit off of you.

Further posts will explore the questions of:
Am I as man shooting myself in the foot as far as relationships go by being or becoming more submissive ?
How is Fem Dom/male submission viewed in a vanilla relationship as compared to a BDSM one ?